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Readers Respond: Do You Let Your Tween Daughter Wear Bikinis?

Responses: 67

By Michelle Kouzmine, About.com

Do you let your tween daughter wear bikinis? At what age do you think it's appropriate for girls to wear bikinis? Share Your Opinion

yes...as long as...

im 12 years old. i wear bikini's all the time during the summer. my parents let them as long as they do not reveal to much, and they are not slutty. also, dont let your daughters wear them if they dont look good in them. expecially if they are not so skinny. so take my advice!
—Guest Guest Tween

whats wrong with a bikini?

Bikini's are perfectly fine for tweens thats when some of them start wearing bikini's! Of course, no thongs tho.
—Guest Whateva

bikini

wearing a bikini is jsut like boys wearing speedos. in encourage it, i wear a thong bikini and my 16yr old started wearing one with me. my son wears speedos and has done since we first went to the beach... ever. when my daughters were younger they dont even have a need for the top. they jsut walk about in bottoms. but as soon as they felt self conscious or it was appropriate the tops were on. there is nothing special about bikinis now. they are just normal beachwear items. my mother back in the 70s did not mind me wearing bikini when i was extremely young. some of you mothers are too paranoid.
—Guest mumE

Depends on what you are doing

I am a parent. I have 2 kids, 20 years apart. So I have been around for a while. I have also worked for a large metropolitan PD for many years...so I know what is going down. That being said, I have no issue at all with my daughter wearing a bikini if she wants. "Perverts" will snatch a child fully clothed - it rarely has anything to do with what is being worn. Parents tend to project their own sexuality on these sickos, it doesn't work like that. Their brain is wired differently. It also doesn't have to do with a girl wanting to be sexy. I may be older than many parents, but I can remember being that age, and sex was the furthest thing from my mind. However, you need to consider what you will be doing. Just lying out on the beach or a little bit of swimming in a pool, a bikini is fine...but if you are going to be doing activities that could make you lose your bottom, it would be best to wear a 1 piece. My suggestion, buy both.
—BadTigz

Well??????? :I

I'm a tween and i personaly think we should be able to wear bikinis beacause it's realy our chose and besides it's our mistake to make and learn from not our parents! But at the end of the day its realy not if you let you child wear one it's if they feel comfterble wearing one! Lets face it there not realy ugly so you cant blame us for wanting to wear one and also i bet most of the parents out there have or had one in the past!
—Guest Smile Sunshine!!!

yes

i think you should i've been wearing one scince i was 3.
—Guest anonymos

allowed to wear bikinis

i think all girls should be allowed to wear bikinis providing the are not to revealing. girls under 7 and fat should not wear bikinis as they dont suit them
—Guest hiya

errh...

although its diffrent for each parent, truthfully, i think that you probably shouldn't let a tween get one unless she actually wants or ask for one. also, you probably would want her too try them on first and agree or disagree with them before hand.
—Guest N/A

ninamayu99

i've worn a bikini ever since i was 6 months and now im 10
—Guest yes

don't do it

wives ask your husband or some male --- you should never allow such sexualization - you just have no idea what men are thinking
—Guest fred

mmm

I personally believe that bikinis are fine some girls like them some don't if your daughter would like one let her try it on but in the change room also bring one piece ask her if she would feel comfortable with a boy who goes to her school staring at her with it on but you have remember that a one piece was once too reveling but people on average are fine with them now
—Guest anonymous

Yes!

Tweens should be able to wear them! I was wearing one at 6 and my parents are pretty strict! They are not making little girls grow up to fast - I think they look fine as long as they're not padded, skimpy or revealing. Wear one and be proud!
—Guest TannedChick

bikinia

Yes! my mom lets me sometimes, but most of the time, bikinis!
—Guest guest millie

Really?

There is no need for these young ladies to be running around practically naked! Why do you need to tan all parts of yourself? YOUR A LITTLE GIRL STILL! you shouldn't be wearing clothes that show those tanned parts anyway! You can still go swimming in a tanktop and shorts... wearing a bikini isn't going to make things more fun... its who you are and who your with that makes things fun. Why are you all in such a hurry to grow up? Be a little girl for as long as you can, yours going to really miss it when your my age (i'm 24). I know that the only reason many of you even want to wear a bikini is to attract attention from the boys... or to fit in. 1. why do you need to attract attention from guys who you know are only with you because it's the thing to do. People date to find "the one" and at your age you don't even know yourself let alone know how to find "the one" 2. why not be a trend setter instead of trying to fit in! Enjoy being a kid! adulthood is too long childhood is short!
—Guest Concerned

totally

i am a 14 year old girl and i LOVE to wear a bikini!!!! me and my friends go out in them during the summer because they are soooo easy to tan in. at first i was not allowed them but then i became able to fill them and now i am ;)
—Guest anonamis

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